Saturday, February 1, 2020

The loss, the grief, the pain!


              I was recently asked for excerpt from my book Greif: Helping Christians Coping with the STORM of Loss by the website www.Grieving.com, that provides resources to individuals dealing with the loss of a loved one.  I shared the following with them from my book:

"Grief is a reality that each of us will cope with more than once in our lifetime. The loss of a loved one, a friend, a pet, our home, our job, or maybe divorce. However, understanding how grief affects us will help us cope with the devastation to our emotional and even physical lives. Understanding the stages of grief is essential to developing healthy coping skills for living a successful life."

              With recent events surrounding the death of Kobe Bryant, and other high-profile individuals such as Jim Lehrer who many of us grew up watching on the news, local Cincinnati politician Todd Portune, and actor Stan Kirsch grief has once again moved to the forefront of the America thinking.  However, the reality is that with these famous people having public funerals and major new coverage we will often over look those around us who are suffering from the loss of a family member to cancer or heart attack, loss of mobility due to a surgery, or the devastation of the death of a pet. Understand I’m not saying we do this intentional, we are simply overwhelmed by the coverage on television. and social media.

              As I watch the television, social media such as Facebook and others.  There is a great deal of coverage of the famous quotes, actions, and yes even family engagement of the famous people that have died. However, there is very limited information being provided on how to cope with the loss.
              I would challenge my friends, pastors, and yes even fellow chaplains to use these events to help people understand the resources that are available and develop the tools to face Grief when it arises in their life.

The great writer C. S. Lewis wrote after the death of wife, “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” It is imperative that we help those we come in contact that maybe struggling the loss of these famous individuals, or more importantly those that are struggling with their own personal loss to understand we care and are here to help.

There are several things we can do to help individual to cope with loss when it comes, weather it a national hero, or personal loss:
·       Acknowledge the loss.
·       Help individuals to understand the stages they will go through and provide tools as they go through each of them.
·       Listen to them, and allow them to share feeling and thoughts
·       Encourage them to focus on the future even when they don’t see one.

If you would like more information on coping with grief, please check out my book @  https://www.revdonallenjr.com/p/books.html

Friday, January 3, 2020

Reflecting on the Past and Future …

2019 was an amazing year!

                As I reflect on the past year it has been amazing to see how God has blessed our family.  We have seen God move in every aspect of our lives physically, financially, careers, and yes even most importantly spiritually.  It is true we have also seen heart arche, physical pain, and disappointments. However, the reality is that throughout 2019 we have seen God be faithful.

                We was blessed in the expansion of Grace Church of the Valley School of Ministry International outreach, as well as the publishing of my second book.

2020 is going to be even more amazing!

                As we move into this New Year it is amazing to already see God moving from dinner last night with our children to celebrate their mother’s birthday to hearing their stories of what their schedules look like.  It is easy to see God’s hand moving in each of their lives. It is just as easy to see God preparing my wife and I for some amazing opportunities throughout the coming year.

                We see some financial blessings coming our way and believing God for even greater physical healing throughout the year. We also see ministry opportunities, from preaching for friends throughout the Greater Cincinnati area, to attending and participating in local and national conferences.

                Then there is the West Africa trip and honestly, I can’t wait to see what God has planned for this amazing adventure.  He has already supplied over half the funds for the trip. I will be traveling with my dear friend Dr. Charles Travis, preaching, teaching pastors, and doing radio interviews are on the agenda for the last part of March or early April.  There is also a possibility that I may be given the opportunity to teach at a local university on “God’s place in helping with Addiction” 

                If you would like to help with this amazing opportunity the need is Two-fold, (1) We need your prayers that all required plans come together as we move forward, (2) help in covering the cost to go and minister. The total budget for this very extensive trip is only $4500.00, all inclusive. We are asking you to pray about what God would have you to do in helping make this trip possible.

Friends, we have made arrangements with Grace Church of the Valley so that your donation can be tax deductible. If you go to  https://gcotv.com/give/ and go to Mission, then make a note in the memo line for Don Allen’s trip, and the funds will be applied to the account. Or you can mail a check or money order to GCOTV @ 1709 Nowlin Ave. Lawrenceburg, IN 47025 with the same designation.

 

The loss, the grief, the pain!

              I was recently asked for excerpt from my book Greif: Helping Christians Coping with the STORM of Loss by the website www.Gr...